Smile a lot is a valuable trait: People who smile often express their sincerity, connect easily with others and are more appreciated.
When you smile, you leave a positive impression that will help you connect and reach your goals. In addition, the smile makes you feel good. However, not all smiles are the same and it’s not a good idea to smile in all situations.
Let’s face it, the smile is not always as easy as it seems, so we often do it in moderation. In the end, it takes a little practice to turn the smile into a habit. In this article, I will give you some ideas on how to practice, in the hope of making you a beautiful smile that will stay there for a long time.
What does your smile mean?
The administration is serious business! However, most managers are aware of the positive effect that a well-intentioned smile can have on others. In most situations, your smile will take you to success. On the other hand, it is sometimes better not to smile: imagine that you are receiving bad news or that you are in the middle of a difficult negotiation.
In addition, all smiles are not the same: when someone smiles, we think first of pleasure and happiness, but this interpretation is not always correct. Imagine, for example, that you fell on the street and almost hit someone. You’re happy? No! But it is very likely that you smile at the other person and that person reacts immediately with a smile. The meaning of the smile here is more like an excuse.
Dare to smile
Finding the right balance between showing a happy or serious facial expression is an art in itself. We want to look relaxed and friendly, but take ourselves seriously at the same time. However, if we contemplate this for a long time, a frown will soon appear on our faces. In the end, with a smile, you will reach the maximum and you will feel happier. However, smiling is not always so easy; Sometimes it takes a lot of courage to do it. Especially in situations where it is better to smile, we tend to clench our jaw and look too tense.
Many jobseekers lose a promising career because they are too tense to create a spontaneous smile. Many lovers lose their life partner because they did not dare to smile at the first meeting. And many managers may have lost the treatment of their dreams because they could not smile spontaneously.
A well-intentioned smile is almost something you can not do too much. Most people react positively to this friendly gesture. And if they do not, they probably say more about their own fear of smiling. That said, smiling at someone who does not smile can cause a sense of embarrassment and embarrassment. Naturally, we are afraid of losing face. That’s why we do not always dare to smile.
Smiling in discomfort
If you are not used to smiling spontaneously, you will quickly feel uncomfortable in situations where you need to smile and, through that feeling, the way you see your smile changes. Let’s take again the example of the couple in love who looks into his eyes for the first time. They love what they see and they can show it by smiling widely when they look at each other in adoration. However, the uncertainty of the new love makes her smile less wide while watching the floor timidly. This kind of smile does not mean “I’m happy to see you”, but “I feel uncomfortable because you’re looking at me”.
In a professional context, during a job interview, for example, we tend to smile only with the mouth, while our eyes do not smile, perhaps because of the tension. This rigid smile is not honest and has a counterproductive effect.
Make smiling second nature
If you do it as second nature to easily smile in different situations, it will not take much effort to smile pleasantly when the tension increases a little. To do this, you must practice smiling. By experiencing the smile, you can also see how your smile is transmitted to others and how they react to it: the smile will often give you the confidence to keep smiling.
In the first part of this article, you explain why smiling is so important, but it is not always easy to do it spontaneously. To allow you to familiarize yourself with a smile, I will suggest some exercises that you can do. After the exercises section, there is a section “This can happen to you”, which describes some of the possible outcomes of these exercises. This will give you a basis of comparison for your own experiences.
1. Warm-Ups In Front of the Mirror
Maybe you usually look in the mirror mainly to see if your hair is fine, if your makeup is applied properly, if you are well shaved and if your skin does not have stains. The time has come to express sincere facial expressions. Call a happy feeling and then smile at yourself. Then smile only once with only your mouth (without your eyes joining). Do you see the difference? Now, move away from the mirror and imagine a situation in which you really want to smile, but that you consider difficult. Imagine this situation is happening right now. Now smile at the other imaginary person playing a role on stage. Then return to the mirror. What does your smile look like?
2. Put It Into Practice
Welcome with a pleasant smile all the people you meet at your workplace next week as if you were really happy to see them. You do not have to keep a permanent smile on your face throughout the conversation. That’s enough for this exercise that simulates every time you get in touch with someone. Do not tell the people you are talking about that you are smiling as part of an exercise, otherwise the effect will be lost.
3. Study the Reactions
Observe the reactions of others to your behavior. Do you have a smile? Does the meeting seem better or worse than usual? Does everyone seem surprised? Are there people who react with suspicion, too? Does the meeting last more or less than usual? Do you have the idea that when you meet people regularly during the week (with a smile), your relationship with them has changed? Write at the end of each day the reactions of other people.
4. Compare the Differences
Is there a difference between the reactions of men and women? Does age make a difference? Is the position held by other people in the organization important: if they are their superiors, direct colleagues of subordinates? How do people with whom you do not usually have a lot of contacts react? Are receptionists, cleaners, technicians, canteen staff, suppliers and customers responding differently to their direct colleagues?
5. Describe Your Own Reactions
Did you have something against this exercise? Did you find this exercise difficult or easy in the end? Did you feel ridiculous when doing the exercise at one point? Was there a time when you wanted to stop the exercise? If yes, why? Did you have the idea that your opinion of others sometimes changed? Have you spent more time with people you did not like so much before? Have you noticed that you get along better with them? How did you feel when others smiled at you?